how I overcame burnout and why I resisted change

Consent stage – the moment when we are ready to make a decision in favor of change. It is also called “acceptance”. For some it occurs quite quickly, while for others it takes a lot of time to make a decision. It is at this point that we begin to trust our decision and look to the future. We take responsibility for accepting changes and the consequences of their implementation in the future.

This stage manifested itself in me in the form of responsibility for the possible consequences of the decisions I made. For example, I made the decision to “stop being convenient for everyone”, but at the same time help in matters in which I feel expertise. This means they can turn to me for help and I should be ready to help. Plus, I have to pay more attention to self-discipline: continue to write posts and maintain my blog, which means setting aside time for it.

So, I found myself thinking that I went through all 4 stages in the process of making changes that brought me out of burnout: from denial to acceptance. And he accepted responsibility for these changes.

What changes and improvements have I noticed?

For myself, I noted the following results that appeared immediately after I reached the agreement stage and accepted responsibility for future changes:

1. I was able to structure my past experiences and my thoughts – the feeling of “a barrel of pickled cucumbers” disappeared.

2. The long-forgotten “Wow” feeling returned to me, I found a new “lighter”.

3. I started doing something that I had previously rejected (sharing my experience), and it even began to bring me pleasure. I have been running my professional blog for more than six months now and have not given up.

4. I realized that it is important to have destinations that you must follow (and the Natal Chart helped me with this, oddly enough).

5. Switched the focus from the past to the future, going through all 4 phases of accepting changes. Accepted responsibility for new tasks that lead me to self-development and to which I must devote time.

6. I realized that, contrary to my past stereotypes, I want to develop not up the career ladder, but horizontally in the area of ​​expertise, and I finally chose the direction of my further development as an IT architect.

7. And yes, I changed my job and was able to get out of my “familiar comfort zone.”

What can I advise others: “Or how to decide to jump into the Rabbit Hole?”

Making the decision to leave your “familiar comfort zone” (where everything is familiar, understandable and grasped) to new changes is really not easy. I can say for myself that day and night I scrolled through all the pros and cons in my head. And I found myself trapped in a choice, like Alice before deciding to dive into the “Rabbit Hole” – it was scary and full of unknowns, but it was precisely this unknown that was so attractive.

And only when the Rabbit took his watch out of his vest pocket and, looking at it, ran on, Alice jumped up, realizing that she had never seen a rabbit in a vest and with a watch. Burning with curiosity, she rushed after him and managed to see him duck into a rabbit hole under a hedge.

It didn’t even occur to Alice to stop or think about how she would get out of there. At first the rabbit hole was straight, like a tunnel, but then it ended so suddenly that Alice did not have time to come to her senses before she flew somewhere down, as if into a deep well.

Either the well was too deep, or the fall was too slow, but Alice had time to look around and even think: what will happen next?

Lewis Carroll. “Alice's Adventures in Wonderland”